This was something I posted on NLPWeekly a while ago. Someone asked about matching/mismatching modalities and submodalities as a possible exercise at the practice group: You may want to consider the submodalities that are expressed in language as well; this is commonly missed, even by many master practitioners I see... Some people fail to focus..
Read moreA New Psalm for NLP Practitioners
I need to have another little rant here. There is a pernicious cliché afoot that is beginning to really irritate me, and just when I thought I’d seen the last of it, it keeps re-appearing, fully accompanied by an ever-present level of crass ignorance and stupidity. Yes, it is NLPer bashing time once again. "The..
Read moreProblem Clients
I’ve been thinking about problem clients recently, as it is something I get asked about quite often by fellow therapists, especially those just starting out. "How do you deal with problem clients?" is a common question, so I thought I’d write it up as a blog entry so I have something to refer people to..
Read moreIn Defence of The Right Man
Following various feedback regarding my "Right Man Syndrome – Depressive Thinking Patterns" article, I thought I’d write the patterns from the Right Man’s perspective. For this purpose, we need to invoke the concept of "The Maybe Man". In contrast to Right Man, the "Maybe Man" is usually gregarious with good social skills and is, more..
Read moreCatastrophisation
I first came across the term "catastrophisation" many years ago in a conversation with a clinical psychologist at Southampton General Hospital. I understood that it is a concept often explored in CBT client work. Basically, it is making mountains out of molehills. It is not an entirely uncommon thing to happen, but it is something..
Read more419 Nigerian Scam
I’ve just spent a few minutes, Googling the words "NLP career". It is interesting how many training companies are offering their services from the sales angle of NLP as a new career." Nothing new, of course, but the question I have is, just how many of these companies are themselves actually making any money? I..
Read morePositive Influences
I've been asked a few times recently what the positive influences on my work and philosophy have been and what things I recommend. Here are some of those things, people, workshops, books, etc. This list is in no particular order and is by no means exhaustive. R.D. Laing. Basically, everything written by R.D. Laing. I..
Read moreRanting again (Bastard Life Coaches).
I must be getting old. Either that or I am just getting tired. I've seen it happen to relatives and their peers who take up political causes, rage at the television news debates, get angry at the behaviour of the youth, and lament the nostalgia of times gone by. So I think I am definitely..
Read moreLet’s take it offline
There seems to have been a new work ethic lurching about in recent years. It looks something like this: "If it seems difficult, or if it seems like hard work, then you are doing it wrong." The Law of Attraction people really seized the day with this one: formulate your desire, set your intention, and..
Read moreDowsing to death
Someone sent me this last week in response to my blog posts. I've edited it slightly to correct grammar and spelling: When my best friend told me that she had a mole on her back that was sore, itchy, and bleeding, I told her to go to the doctor. She had been practising homeopathy for..
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