Male Sexual Health: Premature Ejaculation and Impotence
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Male sexual problems are often endured for years before the affected person seeks clinical help.
It’s estimated that up to 26% of men experience premature ejaculation (PE). This can happen before penetration (sometimes even before clothes are fully removed), immediately upon penetration, or shortly after. While there’s no strict definition for how many strokes define “premature”, some men feel they’re lucky just to get their pants off in time.
“Freudian theory postulated that rapid ejaculation was a symptom of underlying neurosis. It stated that the man suffers unconscious hostility toward women, so he ejaculates rapidly, which satisfies him but frustrates his lover, who is unlikely to experience orgasm that quickly.” – Wikipedia
“It’s worth remembering that Freud also created a concept he called ‘penis envy.’ He also coined the term ‘projection’—which leaves me wondering just whose penis Freud envied?” – Andrew T. Austin
Conventional “man wisdom” says anything under two minutes of thrusting is a “poor show”. But for some men, their ejaculatory response is so trigger-happy that they might feel like they could finish just from pumping up a bicycle tire.
Consider this Reddit thread: Ejaculated While Working Out — it highlights how exercise-induced orgasm (a.k.a. “coregasm”) isn’t as rare as people think.
Even the Daily Mail covered the phenomenon: Have YOU had a coregasm?
For those affected by PE, the anxiety can be debilitating—especially with new partners. While some may be supportive, others aren’t, and sexual confidence can quickly spiral downward.
Safety Wank: For a lighter look at pre-date self-care, here’s the Urban Dictionary entry: Safety Wank
There’s no doubt about it—seeking help for premature ejaculation is embarrassing. But the good news is that even the worst cases can be treated successfully. It just takes time and effort.
Impotence (erectile dysfunction) is another common issue, especially in older men, and is often tied to medical or age-related factors. All clients reporting impotence are expected to have already consulted a GP to rule out underlying medical conditions prior to therapy.
Sexual Technique Tips
Understanding the nuances of different sexual positions can help manage PE. For example, to enhance female orgasm via the G-spot, the “sticky scissors” position is often effective (Google it). To reduce stimulation on the penile glans while maximising clitoral contact, try the “lifted missionary”. Instead of using a pillow to raise the pelvis, the man uses his hands, supporting her with his body weight while adjusting for comfort.