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Male sexual problems are often endured for years before the affected person seeks clinical help.
It is estimated that up to 26% of males are affected with premature ejaculation. Premature ejaculation can occur before penetration has taken place (sometimes before clothes are fully removed), immediately upon penetration, or rapidly after penetration.
The number of strokes that define prematurity is currently unclassified, however, some guys are lucky if they just manage to get their pants off in time.
“Freudian theory postulated that rapid ejaculation was a symptom of underlying neurosis. It stated that the man suffers unconscious hostility toward women, so he ejaculates rapidly, which satisfies him but frustrates his lover, who is unlikely to experience orgasm that quickly.” Wikipedia
“It’s worth remembering that Freud also created a concept he called “penis envy.” He also coined the term, “projection” which leaves me wondering just whose penis Freud envied?” Andrew T. Austin.
Conventional “man wisdom” is that anything under 2 minutes of thrusting is a “poor show”. But some men feel like they are likely to ejaculate just pumping up a bicycle tire, as their ejaculatory response can be rather trigger happy. Just see this thread on Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/bodybuilding/comments/2nfdgk/ejaculated_while_working_out/
When I read the comments I was surprised, I thought that the problem of exercise-induced orgasm was well known, but apparently not. The Daily Mail carried a story about it, calling it the “coregasm”, which is ridiculous but does show how common it actually is: https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2701272/Have-YOU-coregasm-The-awkward-rise-exercise-induced-orgasm-pole-dancing-spinning-weight-lifting-culprits.html
With premature ejaculation, sexual contact may be avoided or may bring about great anxiety, especially with a potential new partner. Whilst the partner may be understanding and sympathetic (or not, as the case may be) unfortunately, the affected man’s sexual confidence can shatter quickly.
Now, there is no doubt about it – seeking help for premature ejaculation is embarrassing. The good news is that even the worst cases can be resolved quite easily, it just takes a bit of time and a little bit of work.
Impotence is another common problem, especially in older men where age-related and medical factors more commonly play a part. All clients reporting impotence will be expected to have already seen a GP to rule out medical disorders prior to consultation.
Understanding some sexual positions subtleties can help too. For easiest female orgasm (via “G spot”) then the “sticky scissors” position is most ideal (google it), and the position that minimizes stimulation on the penis glans whilst maximizing clitoral stimulation is the “lifted missionary” where instead of using a pillow to raise the lady’s pelvis, the guy uses his hands. This means his full weight is on her, but this can be displaced by having the head off to one side giving support.
Watch this short interview with Dr Ruth Westheimer.