Hierarchy of Grief

Found this little gem in Joseph Le Doux’s, “The Emotional Brain” –

…in western cultures, there is a grief hierarchy at funerals. As Mark
Twain said, “the blood relation sobs, an intimate friend should choke
up, a distant acquaintance should sigh, a stranger should merely
fumble sympathetically with his handkerchief” According to Ekman, if
the secretary looks sadder than the wife, suspicions may be aroused…

p 117-118.

Not really relevant, but it is something I’d never really thought about
before, so thought I’d share it.