Professional Hypnotherapy and NLP - Loneliness
Loneliness is more than just the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is not the same as being alone.
Loneliness appears to have become particularly prevalent in modern times. Loneliness can occur within marriages or similar close relationships where there is anger, resentment, or where love cannot be given or received. Loneliness was worse for blood pressure than any other psychological or social factor the researchers studied.
Loneliness means to feel: Excluded from a group. Loneliness is like sitting on a hill and looking into the distance, but not actually seeing much of the view. Loneliness becomes self perpetuating as motivation and desire to get involved dries up.
The American Buddhist monk Ajahn Sumedho however noted that: "We suffer a lot in our society from loneliness". Chronic loneliness (as opposed to the normal loneliness many people feel from time to time), is a serious, life-threatening condition.
Enforced loneliness (solitary confinement) has been a punishment method throughout history. Often, people mitigate loneliness by interacting with others via the phone or the Internet. College students are particularly susceptible to the following misconceptions regarding loneliness: "Loneliness is a sign of weakness, or immaturity.
The alternative to viewing loneliness as a defect or as an unalterable personality characteristic is to recognize that loneliness is something that can be changed.
Low self esteem will often trigger the social disconnection which can lead to loneliness.
Research suggests that college students who think of loneliness as a defect tend to have the following difficulties: greater difficulty in taking social risks, in asserting themselves, in making phone calls to initiate social contact, in introducing themselves to others, in participating in groups, and in enjoying themselves at parties.